We are a society waiting to rape

“He refused sex, so I killed him,” claimed the driver who slashed the throat of Pradyuman, a 7-year-old kid. “I was out of my mind,” he claimed calmly when asked why did he do it. I saw the image and I am not sure how to react. What to write or say when every single time we exceed our demonic selves.

What to write and how much to write in a society where you go in search of God and the baba rapes you, where you go to take tuitions as a kid and the teachers molests you without you even realising, where your close relatives rub through your body and you are confused what’s going on…

Which is the safe place, who is safe, in whose hands are you safe? A kid in International school, the parents would have thought he was safe. A male kid meets this fate, you can’t even imagine females. Just now my friend informed that a 5-year-old girl was raped in some school in Delhi.

The biggest worry is paedophiles who are all around. These people (technically they are, but unfit to be called so) exploit their stature, relation, faith and affection and violate the childhood.

I don’t have a solution. I can’t do anything but lament and feel weird. I am not angry. I am disappointed that I don’t know how could I contribute to this society to think and elevate itself out of repression and sexual frustration! I write, I talk to students, followers etc. but I don’t know how many think on the same lines as me… Or even me thinking my thoughts to be right are right or not!

If the kids pursuing bachelors giggle on the mention of ‘condom’, ‘sexual’, ‘intercourse’, ‘masturbation’ et al… If they have to assume a hidden identity, a troll, to vent their frustration on a girl by saying ‘xyz is pregnant’ on a Facebook page… If they feel proud by analysing a girl’s body as she passes and feel a necessity to share with a friend and call her names… You have a serious crisis in education system.

You have a whole generation waiting to rape, waiting to molest, waiting to pass lewd remarks, waiting to slice the girls with their eyes only…

Most of us enjoy admiring (unknowingly ripping her apart in the process) a female but we are not aware how creepy it gets after a while amid our laughs thinking it was not affecting the girl… But it will affect her for sure when the next time we slap her on her hips in a crowd… Next time when we rub through her breast in a crowded metro… Next time when we grope her groins in a bus…

It surely affects her. I do my part when I try to talk freely in a classroom with 50 students, to you all here on social media, I try to tell them why we should try to control that frustration, that repressed force, that process that starts with admiration ending in taking a female to bed in our minds…

Thought process is acquired after we have spent a significant amount of time in society and to kick it off suddenly can’t be done. The society will have to learn the ways to control those desires that force us to think in a particular way, that sends our hormones rushing, that makes our genitalia erect under our pants and that forces us to do something forcefully which is a crime against humanity.

And education, and education alone, is the answer. It will take a generation to see some dip. A political will to revive the mentality of a repressed society via education to all is a solution. Not this education system where we feel shy to even use the word ‘sex’. A different approach is needed. One generation will learn, grow and educate the next and then we would be able to see some change.

Till then, we can all feel helpless, frustrated, angered, disappointed, but at the same time we can talk to our friends about it and try our bit to sensitise others. That is the least we can do for our mothers, sisters, wives, friends and ourselves…..

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